As inspired by my experience with the book, and some of the same factors which caused me to write it in the fist place, I continue to do marriage mentorship and guidance with a couple planning to be married this year. I also actively look for more brothers and sisters in Christ who would like similar guidance regarding marriage. Much of what they hear from the churches will be vacant of biblical truth, so I feel responsible to present the Word of God regarding this lifelong union as best I can. Loosely speaking the guidance program is based on the template of my book, but there are times of open conversation and question and answer as well.
So far, I find the sessions are going very well. I have worked with the woman since the past fall, and the man should be joining us in a coming session. It sounds like the woman has a mostly traditional and biblical view of marriage, so there are not many points of dispute. The things I teach which make secularists or worldly Christians bristle and grow angry, are accepted as normal by her. She is very familiar with marriage roles of headship and submission, and fully embraces her own submissive role. She also appears to recognize the wife's role in the home. While I am the teacher in the sessions, my wife has spoken with her personally on a few matters, which is a part of my plans and the program itself. Ideally it would be good to all meet together at home, but since they are over an hour away we are having sessions on video, which works fine. If there is anything I have offered which is very new to her, it may be the real lifelong nature of marriage. Granted, she and her fiance are committed to being together for life, but like most, accept at least one exception on a doctrinal level for divorce and remarriage, so I have already shared the biblical teaching that marriage is breakable only by death. Later we will do an entire section on marriage as a lifelong unity. I also think my teachings regarding modesty and plainness are a bit stronger than she has usually heard. She is a woman who would nod in agreement with the need for living modestly, and dressing modestly, but my somewhat Mennonite standard would cause her to ask questions, and would definitely be beyond her own practice. Ultimately though, it is the husband who sets the exact standards of these things in the home, so I hope to discuss this and other matters of leadership with her fiance soon. It is good to see a young couple committed to godliness in marriage. They sincerely care to live as God desires we live, and are working out some of the practical application already. I definitely see Christian virtue and spirit in her, and look forward to meeting the fiance soon. These two know that marriage is a ministry, and they have to be faithful. Praise God.
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